“我就退出家長群怎么了！”近日，“壓垮一個成年人僅需一個家長群”成為了刷屏話題。

　　而這一切都源自江蘇一位家長在自制短視頻中的一聲大喊：

　　“我就退出家長群怎么了”↓

　　據央視新聞報道，從視頻內容來看，這位家長認為老師要求家長批改作業、輔導功課，使得自己承擔了老師應負的責任和工作。

　　視頻結尾處，這位家長問道：“教是我教，改是我改，之后還要昧著良心說老師辛苦了，到底誰辛苦？”

　　A father from Jiangsu province posted a short video online saying that his child's class adviser had asked parents to correct their children’s homework and tutor them accordingly. He believes that it is effectively asking parents to do the work of the teacher. 

　　At the end of the video, he posed the question, "I teach the children, I correct the homework, and then I have to say in the WeChat group that I appreciate teacher's hard work. But who is the one working hard?"

　　無獨有偶，央視新聞報道中還揭露：江西一所學校三年級的家長群中，老師甚至直接點名批評幾名沒給孩子批改好作業的家長。

　　Following the trending video, CCTV News investigated the issue of parent-teacher WeChat groups and found one example of a class teacher directly criticizing parents for not correctly overseeing their children's homework in a group. 

　　這些家長群里出現的問題，引發不少家長共鳴，家長群本應是家校溝通的橋梁，卻無形間成為了“壓力群”。

　　很快，相關話題便沖上熱搜，目前閱讀量已經超過6.3億↓↓↓

　　在微博評論區中，有一條高達17萬點贊的評論如此寫道：以前沒有群，老師都是怎么過的？

　　變了味的“家長群”

　　除了批改作業之外，“家長群”中還存在著一系列額外的任務與壓力。

　　據梨視頻報道，今年國慶前夕，一位孩子的爸爸在家長會上突然情緒崩潰。原因是自己經常消息不回，經老師善意提醒后，感到工作生活都太難，由此情緒失控。

　　Another parent also had a mental breakdown about receiving and replying to endless messages in his group chat with teachers, having to make time after work for his kid to help with the school assignments, given the fact that he is already busy with his job.

　　對于這位爸爸的情緒失控，許多家長紛紛表示：特別理解。

　　而為了替孩子在老師面前博得好印象，有的“家長群”還成了“夸夸群”：家長們開啟稱贊、感恩接龍模式。

　　Teacher-parent WeChat groups are popular across China and originally were set up to facilitate communication between parents and teachers. However, more recently, they have taken on the reputation of being “flattery groups” in which parents try to curry favor with teachers. 

　　老師也苦“家長群”久矣

　　不光家長抱怨，老師同樣對家長群有諸多不滿。有老師甚至感慨：自從進了微信群，每天都是家長會！

　　據央視新聞報道，北京一所中學的劉老師稱，在班級家長群中，發一條學校通知，家長就“轟炸式”回復。

　　劉老師一方面感謝家長對自己工作的支持，但另一方面也很苦惱，“這樣回復，容易讓后來的家長看不到重要信息?！币驗槭謾C總有點不完的未讀信息，劉老師也感覺自己對手機產生了“恐懼”。

　　However, many teachers are less than happy about the chat groups as well, because they feel obliged to answer questions and requests from parents at any time.

　　One teacher surnamed Liu from a middle school in Beijing said he felt "afraid" of mobile phones because there was always a lot of unread information from parents.

　　央視新聞報道還稱，甚至連幼兒園的老師們也倍感壓力。南昌市一所幼兒園的陳老師表示，自己每天花費精力最多的事情就是追著孩子們拍攝短視頻?！皬暮⒆舆M園到放學，從教室里到教室外，我幾乎是跟蹤拍攝，一天要在家長群發至少10個短視頻，讓家長們知道自己孩子在幼兒園里的情況?！?

　　中部某省一位幼師說：“老師們早7上班是常態，晚5下班的卻不多。大多時候家長們加班會晚接孩子，期間老師們不能表現出一絲不滿，還要體諒家長們的辛苦奔波。周末偶爾會安排學習以及常規招生?！?

　　Even kindergarten teachers also felt the pressure. Some say they spent a lot of time and effort chasing children to shoot short videos for their parents every day and should show no dissatisfaction when parents picked up their children late.

　　如何還原“家長群”本來模樣？

　　為了避免家長與老師的雙重苦惱，不少地方的學校開始“自立規矩”。例如，班主任在群里規定，群內只發學校公告和班級通知，絕不就個別學生情況在群里做討論。

　　大連一幼兒園更為明確，直接在家長群中設立9條規定。其中明確了老師和家庭溝通的時間，并特別說明，切忌在群中發送奉承拍馬的內容。

　　10月26日，太原教育局出臺《關于進一步做好中小學生減負工作的實施意見》。明確指出，嚴禁要求家長批改作業、打掃教室衛生、點贊轉發各類信息等。

　　北京市教委去年1月也曾發布相關通知，其中對家校群提出了如下要求：家校群由班主任或年級組長管理，要引導家長樹立正確教育觀和成才觀，學習交流科學有效的家庭教育方法。師生群由任課教師或社團教師管理，要充分體現為人師表，積極引導學生健康成長。家長群由家長委員會管理，要引導家長積極參與家校合作。學生群由學生負責人管理，要弘揚社會主義核心價值觀，積極傳播正能量。工作群由工作負責人管理，不得發布與工作無關內容。臨時設立的群組，在任務完成后由建立者及時解散。 

　　Both educational institutions and local authorities appeared to have come up with ideas to solve the problem in many ways. 

　　A local kindergarten in Dalian, northeast China’s Liaoning Province, has made it clear how communication should be conducted in group chats with parents and teachers; education authorities in Taiyuan and Beijing also issued relevant regulations that teachers are not allowed to ask parents to help with the homework, clean the classroom, or like, share and repost links in the group chat. The temporary group chat has to be deactivated after the work’s done.

　　這些做法受到了許多家長的歡迎：早盼著這一天了……

　　但同時也有人表示反對，認為家長不批改作業，參與到孩子的學校教育中來，怎么知道孩子差在哪？自己的孩子得自己管，教育這件事不能完全靠老師。

　　實際上，家長群本身只是服務老師與家長溝通的方式之一，但這并不是唯一有效的方式，校方也在探索，如統一用企業微信把通知發到家長微信上，避免接收信息端口太多等問題。

　　但不管怎樣，家長和學校雙方還是應該互相理解，畢竟，教育永遠離不開兩者的緊密配合。